(As Published in The Pulse)
The alarm sounds and you reach to turn it off. As you lie there for a moment you stretch and become aware of a new day. What’s the first thought beyond, “Oh I want to lay here a little longer”? Somewhere during that last stretch your mental radio came on.
What is it playing? Is it the sound of quiet peace that drives you to look forward to the day, or sadness, anger or perhaps a conglomeration of worries or fears? As humans we are emotional beings. While all of these feelings are possible, not all are healthy.
Moving forward a little bit you’re standing in front of the mirror. When you look at yourself what do you see? What message does the mental radio play? If you don’t look at yourself, why not? If you do, what do you focus on? Do you see things that please you about yourself or areas that make you critical? Do you look yourself in the eye and mentally talk to yourself, or do you avoid eye contact altogether? If you do project thoughts to yourself, what are you hearing? Are you encouraging and motivating with words for a happy and successful day, or thoughts of being overweight, tired, lonely, and sad or limiting thoughts about your confidence and capabilities?
The sounds you hear come from the mental radio. This is the radio that you tune each day. You control the tuning dial.
Let’s move forward. You’re now in your vehicle and on your way to work. In your mind how do you respond to the drivers around you? Do you let them go on or do you feel a sense of frustration? How many times do you look at the clock during your commute? Do you feel rushed? As the miles narrow between your current location and work, are there physical changes in how you feel?
Think back to that last stretch when you awoke; compare your physical body from then to now. Has your breathing changed? Is there a new tightness in your chest or stomach? What is the mental radio playing? As you get closer to work do you hear happy songs or thoughts, or do you replay and rehearse work conversations or disagreements?
Once again, you’re hearing the radio that you control. As the radio dial goes to a lower frequency each time you turn it to the left, the sound of negative self-talk comes in clearer, the sounds that make you believe false stories thrown at you throughout life, the lie that you are not enough, that you are flawed in some way. These are the messages that you find yourself listening to and believing songs like, “I’m expecting a bad day today”. Those things that you focus on are the conditions that you attract.
This radio is yours. You control it. When you turn the dial to the right, the positive frequency increases and your level of optimism naturally and automatically grows. Instead of expecting conflict you look forward to time with good people and good opportunities. That mental radio you control starts playing songs like, “I am enough and I look forward to a new day of life.”
While you don’t have a dial on your forehead you can control your frequency, the thoughts that increase your confidence, that make you want to look yourself in the eye in the morning, knowing you are a force for positive change in the lives of those around you.
Those things that you focus on are the conditions that you attract.
I have the privilege of watching clients arrive with decades of trauma and abuses and then make incredible shifts toward confidence, excitement for life and a unique sense of inner peace. There are a variety of concepts and processes we do together beyond the scope of this article. The first is a truth that changes their mindset.
As they recognize this truth, they become aware of their current physical state. Simply stated it is this: “Every thought creates a chemical reaction within your body”. When you focus on the negative, your body reacts accordingly, increasing stress, labors breathing in the chest and causes stomach discomfort. (Remember the physical recognition during the morning commute?) When you become aware of this truth and recognize your existence, you can take a proactive step to adjust the dial of your life. When you focus on the positive, your mind and body calms.
As emotional, energetic beings we attract the types of people, opportunities and health conditions from the frequency of our thoughts. You control that mental radio and what it plays. You choose how you feel and you determine your abilities to expect and attain successful living.
Let’s step back and look at the day. We’ve looked at rising, standing before the mirror and driving to work. This is a small snippet of the day, maybe only two to three hours. Look at the variety of thoughts and feelings you’ve experienced in this short time. Each of these day-to-day activities and how your feel tell a lot about your life. In future articles, we’ll look closer at these.
Every thought creates a chemical reaction within your body.
For now, I challenge you starting tomorrow to examine your own life during these same time periods. Be honest with yourself and recognize three simple things:
- What do you think and feel?
- How do you treat yourself before the mirror?
- What physical and thought changes occur during your commute?
Then package all this together. Is this the “You” that you wanted when you were young? Your life might be challenging… or it could be awesome. Regardless, we all have positive paths we can walk if we decide today to change the frequency of our lives.
So, how do you turn that dial to the right to increase the positive? Earlier we talked about recognizing your condition. Another powerful tool is acknowledging those good things currently in existence in your life today. Let’s look at simple things.
The alarm sounded and you woke up. You have another day of life. Look at your health. Even if challenged in some way, what physical resources do you have? Can you see, hear or talk? You have the gift of communication for this day. It’s an opportunity to speak kindness into someone’s life or just to be quiet and listen. And if you choose not to do that, that’s your fault because you tune your own dial to the negative. You bring kindness into your own life by being kind to others.
Do you live in a home? Do have food and fresh drinking water? There are millions in this world who do not. What skills do you have? Are you artistic? What good people do you know? Each of these touch in some way the things to be grateful for. Gratefulness is a natural positive feeling. That’s another way to change your daily operating frequency.
So, tomorrow, take time to recognize those conditions in your life during those first few hours. Each is indicative of an alignment (or misalignment). Then, recognize the good resources you have and write them down. In a future article we’ll look at how that list can empower you and change your tune.
Anthony M. Davis, CCH, MSCA
Mr. Davis is a Certified Consulting Hypnotist, Leadership, Personal and Success Coach and an Accredited Stress Coach in Charlottesville, VA.
He helps clients that faced years of abuse or personal trauma. Using a series of Transformative Life Centering processes, he helps them realize their inner worth and regain their lives. His clients include everyday people with everyday problems, celebrities and business professionals who travel from all over the U.S. to see him. He prides himself with the reward of life change in his clients. For more information, visit Leadership Matters.